When your daughter is dating the wrong guy
Bradley notes that a teen's choice of a boyfriend is part of her effort to separate herself from you -- and, for a rebellious teen, a way to test you and "push your buttons." Instead of judging or criticizing the new boyfriend, keep the focus on your daughter and how the relationship appears to be working for her.
Inviting him to join your family for dinner or hang out in your home is probably the last thing you want to do with a boyfriend you hate, but it can be a smart move on your part.
For another, it gives you a chance to try to get to know him face to face, heading off your daughter's inevitable "you don't even know him" complaints.
As a parent, stay on top of the feelings and things being discussed.
Because of this, I was drawn to people like my best friend, who was dynamic and bold. I was causing trouble, making things difficult for everyone. " my friend whispered as we walked back to the car with the guys a few steps ahead. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something." "Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals. "." My own voice — big, firm, filling the space — was a surprise to both of us. When I turned 21, I remember making a point, regularly, to look at teens and ask myself whether I'd want to hang out with them, much less date one. As a teen wishing to be an adult, it is easy to get in over your head. That if something feels wrong, that's all the reason you need to get out of there.
Your teenage daughter is head over heels for her latest boyfriend, but he's definitely not "the kind of guy you want to bring home to mom." In fact, he's everything you don't want in a boyfriend for your daughter, and you really don't want her to have anything to do with him.
Telling her that outright is likely to send her running even faster in his direction, so find a careful balance between making your opinions known and acknowledging her feelings for her new beau.