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" It can be as simple as asking to cuddle for five minutes before a shower, or even showering together.
Regardless of the solution, talking about it may reveal something you never knew, and allows fore more understanding before coming up with a new norm that'll make all parties happy.
I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle.
Is there a compromise that will work for both of us?
(So long as it's something you're comfortable with, of course.) The penis gets all the press, but men have many erogenous zones, just like women, says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, Psy D.
That's when your partner can talk about what pressures he's feeling, or what he's self-conscious about. "In a really good, connected, long-term partnership, there's not a magic word that will work wonders; it's more about getting to know what it is your partner is worried about, and addressing that outside of the bedroom, when he's not already anxious about whatever the issue at hand is." Once you're in the bedroom (and aware of his insecurities), remind him of how much you enjoy being intimate.
Then, it's time for another kitchen table sex talk, Mintz says.
"If he's been jumping in the shower right after sex for the last 10 years, he's going to be really taken off guard if, the next time he goes into the shower, you all of a sudden say it upsets you," she explains.
For example, if he's worried about his weight, maybe give him a sexy once-over and tell him how how buff he looks naked.
Other key areas to compliment: His gut, as men often worry about the size of it (and other measurable parts), and their hair, as guys tend to feel self-conscious once they start losing it. Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age.