Frum dating blog
I did not like kissing while we were standing up but sitting down it was much better, even though it still felt very strange. Actually what I feel is that Hashem gave me a very precious gift. I wrote a long post describing how it was, how good he was to me and cuddled with me first and how nice that felt. It is enough for you to know that I did it, and yes we kept all our clothes on don’t worry, and he was good to me and it felt nice, and I do not feel guilty at all.As you pointed out, you are trying to figure out if this is the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
How do you get from that advice, to being ready to make a decision? If you knew there was a guy just like this guy, but a little funnier, or a little taller, or a little more organized, a better learner, a better earner–it wouldn’t matter.I am from a different world, a different religion, and when I say different, I mean it…I am an Arab, a Muslim who totally respects you and admires you and I mean it with all my heart. and no matter how each of our backgrounds fear the other and view each other as the bad people, I am here to tell you, you have made me understand more and respect more. I saw your first episode on modesty and hair covering before I got married.After what seemed to me a short time (maybe 5 weeks), we were both feeling a lot of pressure to make a decision. I needed to KNOW (my friends held up signs spelling out the word “clarity” at my wedding to make fun of me).She got engaged, telling me “sometimes you need to hold your nose and jump.” She felt that she had all the facts that she needed to make an educated decision. I was given very wise advice that I have given over many times: you don’t have to decide on any one date whether you want to marry the person you’re seeing, just whether you want to see them again and continue to get to know them. At some point, you will G-d willing realize that THIS real person sitting in front of you is the one you want in your life going forward.